When I consult, coach or lead personal development workshops a particular area that I look for is...
What is getting in the way of them being successful? Here are the top 7 things they are doing:
NUMBER 1 - They Think, Say, & Do Negative Things:
Yes, they see problems in EVERY opportunity.
They complain that the sun is too hot. They cursed the rain for ruining their plans for the day. They blame the wind for ruining their hair. They think that everyone is against them. They see the problems, but never the solutions. Every little bit of difficulty is exaggerated to the point of tragedy. They regard failures as catastrophes.
They become discouraged easily, instead of learning from their mistakes. They never seem to move forward because they're always afraid to come out of their comfort zones.
NUMBER 2 - They Act Before They Think:
They move based on instinct or impulse. If they see something they like, they buy at once, without any second thought. Then, they see something better. They regret & curse for not able to take advantage of the bargain.
Then they spend & spend again, until nothing's left. They don't think about the future. What they're after is the pleasure that they will experience at present. They don't think about the consequences. Those who engage in unsafe sex, criminality and the like are included in this group.
NUMBER 3 - They Talk Much More Than They Listen:
They want to be the star of the show. So, they always engage in talks that would make them heroes, even to the point of lying. Most of the time, they are not aware that what they're saying is not sensible anymore.
When other people try to advise them, they close their ears because they're too proud to admit their mistakes. In their mind, they're always correct. They reject suggestions because that will make them feel inferior.
NUMBER 4 - They Give Up Easily:
Successful people treat failures as stepping stones to success. Incompetent ones call it quits, upon recognizing the first signs of failure.
At first, they may be excited to start an endeavor. However, they lose interest fairly quickly, especially when they encounter errors.
Then, they go & search for a new one. Same story & same results. Incompetent people don't have the persistence to go on and fulfill their dreams.
NUMBER 5 - They Try to Bring Others Down To Their Level:
Incompetent people envy other successful individuals. Instead of working hard, to be like them, these incompetent ones spread rumors and try every dirty tricks, to bring them down.
They could've asked these successful ones nicely, but no, they're too proud. They don't want to ask for advise. Moreover, they're too negative to accomplish anything.
NUMBER 6 - They Waste Their Time:
They don't know what to do next. They may just be contented on eating, getting drunk, watching TV, or worse, staring at the blank wall, with no thoughts whatsoever to improve their lives.
It's perfectly fine to enjoy, once in a while. However, time should be managed efficiently, in order to succeed. There should be a proper balance between work & pleasure.
NUMBER 7 - They Take the Easy Way Out:
If there are two roads to choose from, incompetent people would choose the wider road with less rewards, rather than, the narrower road with much better rewards, at the end.
They don't want any suffering or hardship. They want a good life. What these people don't realize is that you reap what you sow. Efforts & action will not go unnoticed. If only they would be willing to sacrifice a little because they would be much better off.
Successful people made it through trials & error. They never give up. They are willing to do everything necessary, in order to achieve what they aspire for in life.
Change Your Mindset and Change Your Results...